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Assertiveness.
"What is assertiveness?
Assertiveness is an attitude of mind and a way of relating to others.
It's an attitude that says, in short 'Here I am, a person with unique
gifts to give to the world. Who are you? What do you bring?' It is a positive,
optimistic attitude, valuing yourself and others, seeking respectful communication
with others, yet at the same time able to set boundaries, to protect yourself
from exploitation, attack and hostility
Asserting yourself means:
*you can say 'Yes' when you mean yes and 'no' when you mean no. You don't
agree to things you don't like, or give up things you do like, in order
to please someone else.
* you can communicate clearly to others what you are feeling and what
you want from them, in a calm way.
* You don't let a fear of conflict silence you. You are prepared to take
the consequences of communicating your feelings and wants.
* You can do this because you feel good about yourself. You feel entitled
to be here, to be who you are, and to express what you feel. And because
you assert yourself, you feel good about yourself.
* You can set clear boundaries, and feel entitled to defend them if they
are attacked.
* You enjoy life and have no difficulty in taking pleasure. You can give
and receive both compliments and criticisms, learning from both."
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